The principle that wisdom comes with age is not true in all cases. It’s barely true in most cases. In 2017 – 2018 the elders seem to walk around here more lost than the youth. They love to talk about how the youth are this and how the youth is that, but they have never looked in the mirror to realize that they are the ones to blame for the way the youth act today.
As I stated in Family Equals Perfection; children imitate what they see their parents doing. Children also imitate the people around them whether good or bad when they don’t have parents who are being parents. Or they may have parents or a parent who is still believes that they are in their youth, whatever their age may be.
When the parent wants to act as a friend instead of a parent, there will be a lack of respect in that relationship. That is where we are at as people. The youth do not respect the elders. And to be honest I can’t blame them. It’s hard to respect people who you can’t even look to for words of advice or encouragement.
Case in point: Recently, I was listening to two of my elders go back and forth about relationships. It was an older male and female both around the age of 50. The lady had bought up that she had suspicion to believe that her husband may be stepping out on her. We discussed it and her reasoning had merit but it wasn’t enough to make a solid conclusion off of. So them two started talking about cheating and if either of them have done it before. The lady then went on to explain how women are better at it and how they just make men believe that they are good at it.
Being the inquisitive person that I am, I asked her to please explain how and why she thinks that women are better cheaters. She went on to laugh and say, “I’m not snitching on us! I’m not snitching on us!” I am sitting there looking at her like why do you think that this is cute. You are in you fifties and I know that people will always do what people do. But when do they grow up, if ever. She never thought like maybe he’s asking because he needs relationship advice and wants to know what and what not to look for in a women. Not saying that I should look for signs of cheating but if the signs popped up I would know them. She could have gave me the jewels to ensure that my Family does Equal Perfection. Where’s the love?
As I am typing this, the thought came to my mind that I will have to pull her to the side and ask her a few questions, but then again I am the youth. Shouldn’t she have schooled me. Why do I have to take the wiser position? It is what it is tho! Some of us are beyond our years in age, but still need guidance.
To loop this back to the youth not respecting the elders. Should they have to? (Yes, but seriously) They’re not teaching us anything. They’re not pulling us to the side and saying, “Son look here….!” All of the stuff that they claim happened to them growing up in their communities, they haven’t or won’t do the same things to us. They elders want to hold the youth accountable for their behavior but they need people to mirror their image after.
So which came first, the Chicken or the Egg?