What is this dude talking about? My family is dysfunctional as hell! That’s probably what the title of this post made you think. But whose family isn’t dysfunctional. I know damn well that mine is. Read on and hopefully the title will make a little more sense after you read this short story.
One day my boy, Rob, his father and I were out hooping, playing five on five. It’s scorching hot outside, there are no trees for shade and there is a clear sky without a cloud insight. So the sun is beaming full force on everybody. I’m guarding Rob while his dad is bringing the ball up the court. I look at his dad then look back at him, then it hits me, they look exactly alike. The revelation was so simple that all I could do was laugh.
Ok so in the Bible it says that we are created in the image and likeliness of God. In being created in his image, we were given the ability and responsibility to create as well. When a man and a woman create a child, they will create this child in their own image and likeliness. Since Rob’s father created him in his image; that also means that Rob’s father’s father created him in his own image as well. Now think about how far back that goes. It goes back to the beginning of time or of man’s creation. If the original man portrayed the image of God onto his kid and his kid portrayed it onto their kids and so on, this would only mean that the kids of today would be made in the image of God. And the image of God is perfection.
Most people look very similar to one or both of their parents. Whether or not the parents are portraying the image of God is on them. As a parent you are your child’s god. No child is born with a Bible, Quran or the Metu Neter ingrained in their hands. You are the only person your child looks to each and every day to provide food, clothes and shelter for him or her. When kids cry and are upset, they look to their parents for all of the answers.
To the ladies with baby fathers that they just can’t stand, I’m sorry that you are in that situation, but you have to do everything possible to keep that child’s father in their life. That also goes in reverse to the men with baby mothers. Having a father in the house or a father figure around really will make a significant difference in your child’s life. Looking back at my life, I thank God that I was blessed enough to grow up with my dad in the household. It gave me the chance to see how a man should and shouldn’t interact with a woman. I also got to see his accomplishments along with his failures. There are also things that my dad taught me that my mom just wouldn’t have been able to. Plus boys tend to fear a man more than a women, making the father figure more of a disciplinary/ authoritative figure to him.
My definition of family is a unit made up of a man, woman and children living in accordance with each other. We all carry within us every last strand of DNA passed down through our ancestry from the beginning of time, but something has happened to our family structure and way of life that made us forget this knowledge and stop practicing our culture of close-knit families. When the family structure is strong, years and years of knowledge and wisdom will be passed down through every generation. Therefore making the next generation stronger than the last.
Let’s work on rebuilding our family structures and in doing so we can bring this world back into its perfect state.
Let me know of some ways in which we can rebuild our family structures by leaving a comment below. Thanks for reading and I look forward to hearing from you!