I’m blessed to be able to work back to Pittsburgh from time to time. When I do, I usually go and spend as much time as I can with my family and friends before I have to work back to D.C. early the next morning. On this particular trip, after spending the day with my family, I have my mom take me back to the hotel so that I can get some rest, but before we go to the hotel we make a stop so that we can get some food real quick.
We stop at drive-thru of one of the more pleasant fast food chains. I’m not going to name the food chain because there aren’t any free advertisements over here (lol), plus eating fast food ain’t really my thing this was just a fly by situation, nonetheless no excuses though. As I pull up to the window, I noticed a beautiful, young, black lady handing the food to the person that was taking the order so that person could hand it over to the car.
There are different voice variations between every culture of people. So when this beauty heard my voice I guess she was intrigued to see who was in the car. So she looked in the car as she handed over the first bags of food and we locked eyes. I was intrigued as well. As she handed over the second bag of food, I noticed that the interest had completely died. As I was pulling off I thought about what could’ve possibly happened and why she got so cold so quickly.
I forgot to mention that my nephews were in the back seat and the second bag of food happened to be kids’ meals. She more than likely thought that the two kids meals were for MY kids. But when I realized that, it was too late I had already pulled off. So all I could do is laugh at the situation with my mom. There was no way for her to know that them weren’t my kids. But I RESPECT HER G!
I respect her G, because she is a woman with standards. She is woman who doesn’t want to deal with a man who has baggage unless that baggage is packed and ready for them to go on a vacation. She is a woman who is working towards her goals and won’t let anyone or anything get in her way.
Please don’t take what I am saying out of context, kids are not the baggage. Kids are beautiful, artistic and creative souls. The ultimate goal in life is to bring life into this world. But a fair amount of woman deal with douche bags but they do so by their own choice. Women need to learn how to read what other people especially men are saying to them. The words that come out of a man’s mouth will ultimately show you where his heart lies. Is his conversations only based around sex and other mundane things? Or does he speak of the future and goals that you two could and will accomplish if you’ll became a union? Does this other person make me better in all aspects of my life or are they holding me back from being great? Do they respect your G? These questions can be asked for any type of relationship.
I guess my question is: would you date some one that has a kid?
I don’t mind because I have done so before and I really liked and enjoyed that person, but at that point in time I guess our stars weren’t aligned. You know who you are. 😉
As always thanks for reading and don’t be shy leave a comment telling me how you feel about dating people with kids.
ADDENDUM: This post wasn’t originally dedicated to the Goddess Dr. Francess Cress Welsing, but since she recently passed; I would like to pay homage to this beautiful soul that has left us, because I Respected Her G. If you are not familiar with her work, go watch the Isis Papers NOW and then buy her book. She’s gone but not forgotten. May you Rest in Peace.