Proverbs 13: 24 reads, “He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him.” We must go back to the olden days when our communities were actual communities. The old heads always talk about how back in their days, if they were to get caught doing something wrong, the whole community; teachers, neighbors, and elders in general would take it upon themselves to discipline them. They always say that when they got home he or she would get it again from their parents. I want to know what happened. When did the disconnect between the elders and the youth happen? These days it seems as though the elders are scared or want nothing to do with today’s youth.
Yesterday, I was in Baltimore riding on a bus that happened to be packed with a bunch of high school students. And as usual they were loud and obnoxious, but to be honest I don’t have a problem with that, that is just what teenagers do. My only problem is that in this day and era they don’t have the same respect for the elders as we did when we were their age. For instance, when we were teens we acted up and was loud, but the difference is that if we were in a public atmosphere we at least tried our hardest to not cuss and when we did we looked around for any elders so that we could apologize to them. The teens today don’t do that anymore. They just let the filth fly out their mouths with no regards for who is around. So all this filth and ignorance is happening at the back of this packed bus. I’m standing in the front next to a guy who just keeps saying, “stupid kids!” I’m thinking to myself like, “Yeah they are stupid but nothing is going to change if no one ever says anything to them.” I wanted to make my way to the back but the bus was over packed to the point where the driver wasn’t letting anyone else on.
All the students ended up getting off of the bus at the next stop and I missed an opportunity to say something. I don’t know if it is just me and my love for our youth, but I don’t mind speaking and working with them. I actually enjoy/ love it. And after writing that I believe I answered my own question. Over the years I realized that kids love being around me. And they listen to what I have to say. Maybe because I look young and still dress with a youthful appearance, but kids just want to know that the people around them really care for them. Because even when I give a kid tough love they know that it’s out of love. And that is how we can bridge this disconnect between the youth and elders. We have to bring back a sincere love for one another. But to the elders, you have to realize that most of the time the youth aren’t just going to walk up to you and ask for advice, you have to be the bold one. A few kids may brush you off, but there will be the ones that are looking for the guidance of an older person.
I along with you should try to say something encouraging to a young person everyday. Call a random young lady a princess, I bet it brightens up her day. Because a lot of the kids today never even heard anything of the sort before. I am living proof that this method works. I said, “Excuse me young queen!” to this teenage girl before because I needed space to get by her and she lit up. As I walked by I heard her say to her friends, “Aww!!! No one has EVER called me that before!” So I’m going to make it a requirement that I try to call a young women a queen and a young man a king everyday, I think you should as well. Let’s work to change their outlook on themselves and in turn it will change how they view the world and how the world views them.
Leave a comment and let me know how you feel about this situation.
Peace and agape love to all the kings and queens out there.